How do I hook up with a girl at a party. Once again we need to start by clarifying what you mean by "hook up" If we're talking about finally closing with a a girl you've been working on at school for weeks then it's just a matter making sure you're game is tight and you "touch escalate" properly.( Touch escalation is a way of slowly making a girl familiar with your touch and gradually escalating to the point of fun touch ;) ... more to come on that soon.) But if you're talking about a one night seek and destroy mission then it's a different ball game all together.
Now again before we go any further lets define what you're idea of "hooking up is" and I'm talking about physical now. If you're mind is set on "getting it in" all night you're probably going to fail. Girls can tell when you only want one thing from them. What you have to do is make it seem like sex is the last thing on your mind. Set you're goals lower and you'll get farther. Decided that you'll just make it to second base tonight and be ok with that. What you have to remember is that sex is a bigger deal to these girls then it is to you. They could end with a disease or worse ... pregnant. And to avoid that girls have a built in alarm we like to call "the anti slut defence". It's like a little voice in there head that goes off when ever there doing something that could end up in them jeopardizing there future or looking slutty. It's very hard to over come this especially with younger girls where this might also be there first time. And if you come on to strong and telegraph that you are D.T.F. she'll avoid you all together. But if you come on slow and make her feel comfortable... Who knows, You might just get it in.
When you first get to the party be friendly, be social, You need to walk around the room like you own the place. Don't stay in any one spot too long. Go from group to group and make small talk. Pick 3 or 4 girls that might be options later. Establish contact with them and make conversation, keep it light, and don't stay to long. Always leave them wanting more "Kitten theory." What you're doing now is creating a safety net. If you focus all of your energy on one girl and she flakes your night is ruined. But by having several girls on the go it'll give you options at the end of the night when it comes time to seal the deal. If one girls acting standoffish, its on to the next one. While bouncing from girl to girl you need start to gage which one is your best option. Who's the hottest, who's the drunkest, which one is the most likely to let you put your hands in her pants. Rank the girls in priority from "Plan A" to "Plan C" (three options is usually best). This ranking system will allow you to dispense your energy appropriately, Spending the most time with A and then down the line receptively. Don't hide your interaction with the girls from each other. In fact, having them see you talk with other girls will only help your game. Jealousy is a powerful motivator.
Once we know who "Plan A" is we need to start our attack. Stop bouncing around and settle down with her for a while. Make it clear that she has earned you attention and you're interested in getting to know her better. Spend some time just talking. Find little excuses to touch her. When your telling a story touch her arm for a second as if to say "You know what I mean ?" But never let your touch linger long enough to make her uncomfortable. You're just slowly chipping away at her boundaries, her personal space. You're slowly making her comfortable with the idea of you touch ing her so later on it just feels natural. When your starting to fell like she's into it, like this is going somewhere it's time to move. You can't start making moves in the middle of the party in front of every one. This would trigger her "anti slut defence." What will everyone say about her at school on monday if she makes out with you on the couch beside her best friend? Think about it.... If you're going to have any chance of hooking up you need to isolate her into a second comforbuilding location. Just grab her hand and say "Come with me, I can't hear myself think in here but I'd like to keep talking with you. let's find somewhere quite." If she comes with you without hesitation... It's on.
The second comfort building location should be somewhere quite and private where you can hopefully move on to the "making out stage." But a bed room is not your ideal place. A bedroom screams "LETS HAVE SEX!" Which will again trigger the defence. She'll be pre thinking of ways to say no to you. Instead try finding a place near a bed room. like the upstairs hallway or a couch in a living room where no ones around. Once your situated take a minute to get back to the small talk but now watch her body langue. If she's interested in taking this further she'll let you know. She'll smile and lean in. She might laugh at your jokes even though you both know there not funny. She might touch your arm while she's talking. These are all signs thats she interested. The next step is going in for the kiss. this can be the make or break moment. Some guys like to do the lean in and just go for it method but for me, I like to ask. I know what your thinking "He ask permission to kiss a girl??? How lame!" but trust me guys its not like that at all. While I'm half way through a story that I can tell she's into to I pause. I lean back with a sly grin and say "You want to kiss me don't you?" Now one of four things happens. She grins and and nods her head yes and we start making out. Or she giggles and says nothing.... and I lean in and we start making out. By saying nothing, she's saying yes. Maybe she says "I don't know...maybe" which means once again, We start making out. The only time we don't kiss if she says no. And even then you turn it back on her and say something like "I didn't say I wanted to. I just thought you looked like you were eyeing my lips." Then quickly move to another topic like its no big deal. But assuming she goes for it, and your making out. All you have to do now is carefully time your advanced touch escalations and you'll be set. When you feel like she's really getting into it take it a bit further. Start on top of the clothes then work your way up the shirt then down the pants. If she lets you take it that far try taking her clothes off. At this point she might show some token resistance in order to not feel like a slut. She might say something like "We should slow down, we barely know each other." Don't try to talk her into going further. That would just give her something to push against. Instead agree with her, Say "You're right we should slow down. It's crazy how much I'm into you." but just keep on going. The only time you back off is if she actually says "No" or "Stop." You need to be able to differentiate between token resistance and just plain old resistance. If not you might find yourself slapped with a rape charge.
If she does ask you to stop, don't let it get to you. Store it in your spank bank and move on. Don't make her feel uncomfortable either. Tell her it's alright and that you respect her more for stopping it before you both got carried away. Give her a hug and a kiss and maybe even suggest you should hang out sometime soon. Head back to the party and enjoy yourself. Getting a little is better than getting nothing at all. Consider this a successes.
NOTE: Alcohol can be a double edge sword. It might give you some liquid courage it more often than not make you look like a sloppy idiot. And girls aren't attracted to messy drunks. Also getting her drunk might help in the sense that it will lower her inhibition and give her an excuse to do things she regularly wouldn't. But too much booze and you'll spend the night holding her hair while she vomits instead of getting it in.
Happy Hunting!
Happy Hunting!
