“The Art Of Opening Part I" - An Introduction & Approach Anxiety

An Introduction:

First of all lets get something clear, Openers are not pick up lines. Walking up to a girl and saying something like “nice legs, When do they open?” Is not only disrespectful its retarded. I promise you a pick up line has never gotten anyone laid. IF she doesn’t think you’re a total asshole after that, the most she will think of you as is “that kinda funny guy”. She might want to be buddies but she wont let you see her naked. An opener is a way to approach a girl your interested in and naturally enter into a social interaction with confidence and without making things awkward.

Approach Anxiety:

Why is it that when ever we decided to talk to a girl we’re interested in we get this overwhelming feeling telling us not to. We start thinking thoughts like what if I ask her for her number and she says no? What if I ask her out and she says no, or worse laughs?!

Well as the great P.U.A. “Mystery” points out in his book “The Mystery Method.”

“In a tribal group, there will be some small number of available women of breeding age. When a man approaches one, he risks rejection, and if that happens, all the other women will know, which will diminish his value in their eyes — maybe to the point where none of the women will mate with him. This is called preselection — women look for social validation of their choices. A suitor who is preselected will be more attractive, whereas a man who has been rejected will be less so. Another factor regarding approach anxiety is the possibility that she may already be taken, in which case there is a component of real, physical danger to any male who approaches her. For all these reasons and more, men are naturally selected to experience approach anxiety. Logically, of course, modern society fixes these problems. If I am rejected, I can simply go to another part of the bar, or leave the bar entirely. I will probably never see any of those people again. But my emotions don't know that. My emotions are trying to do what's best for me.”

Next time you’re about to approach a girl remind yourself that “it just doesn’t matter” Who cares if she says no? A little rejection isn’t going to hurt you. You’re not a cave man anymore. If she shoots you down just walk away with a smile on your face like you couldn’t care less. Like Jay-Z says “It’s on to the next one.” Embrace rejection, most approach anxiety is a result of anticipated rejections, not real ones. Eventually, time in the Field will desensitize you to the emotion of rejection. In a game where you might play five or ten sets every time you’re out, losing a few of them here and there never really seems like a big deal.

NOTE: All this is very true in the real world but lets face it high school is not the real world. In a lot of ways high school is like a tribe. If you strike out to many times or say something really stupid and make an ass of yourself, the word can get around and hurt your chances down the line. What I suggest is going your game outside of school. Try gaming at the mall or another school. Once you’re game is tight focus on opening girls at your own school.


Happy Hunting!

COMING SOON – “The Art Of Opening Part II "– First Words