Q&A - How do I ask a girl out?

This question was sent to me by a Ninth grader.


How do you ask a girl out? Well for starters we need to define what you mean by out? If you mean ask her to be your girlfriend, then your getting ahead of yourself. You shouldn't have to ask a girl to be your girlfriend, If you're game is tight (and if your following my advice it will be) You'll set up a series of hang outs and encounters that eventually will lead to her just assuming she's you're girl friend. She'll be asking you where you stand. Never ask a girl to "go out with you" Thats a lot of pressure, by doing that you're asking her to prematurely define your dynamic. You're also committing to her and tying yourself own. If you don't put a label on it right away you can play the field. It's not cheating if you'r not dating ;) You need to play the "seeing" each other card as long as you can. 


Now if you mean ask her out like ask her on a date I say don't do that either. Well at least not in the traditional sense. Don't ask a girl to dinner and a movie, thats boring and again it puts pressure on them. Dinner and a movie has been the staple "go to" date since the 1950's, think out side the box. Also by defining what you're doing with the standard dating convention you're putting unneeded pressure on both yourself and on her. You're now forcing her to really think if you're the kind of guy she want to "go out" with. And if she does decided your worth spending time with you'll have the added pressure of making it a "good date". You'll have to worry about making small talk and picking the right restaurant, picking the right movie. Not mention paying for everything which can be hard on your wallet if you don't have a job yet. A trick I've picked up it  find it better to find an excuse to see each other. For example ask her to go with you to the mall to pick out a gift for your mother. Tell her you need a girls opinion, She'll love it. When you get her to the mall you can take her for dinner as a thank you for the help. Maybe share a frozen yogurt. (I'll talk more about date ideas and routines in another post) But by getting rid of the standard date cliches you eliminate the pressure to preform and it almost always makes for a better more relaxed date.


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